I think there is a strange panic that happens when you have a miscarriage. You start to believe that there is something innately wrong with you. Like you just won’t be able to have children, that your time has passed, that there is some time frame that you have missed and that you need to hurry up, because perhaps you will miss the boat all together. Or perhaps… this is just what I felt.
I know I have been thinking these thoughts for a few months now and a strange sense of being overwhelmed came over me, whenever I thought about having a child and how I was ever going to achieve it. It was like this unknown beautiful thing that just seemed to happen for others so easily and yet seems so impossible when you are in it, or if you have experienced a miscarriage.
Well, as usual I had to investigate further and try and figure out why it was happening and more importantly what I could do from it happening again. Initially, my main focus was just on getting pregnant. I figured that eventually one of the little guys would hang around, if perhaps I just kept trying. After 3 miscarriages in the space of 10 months, I finally decided that this was simply not a tact I wanted to go through or keep up. There had to be more to this!
I eventually came across an amazing audio and book by Dr Roy Dittman, called Brighton Baby. In the audio version, he describes how many women he has helped get pregnant and what his typical process is all about. What I loved hearing was that he strongly suggests prenatal care and a heavy focus on getting our bodies READY for carrying a child. This was a concept I had thought about in the past but admittedly my “baby stress thoughts” took over!
Dr Dittman explains how important it is to actually prepare the body for pregnancy, not just to allow us to actually carry our child through until birth but more importantly for the safety and health of the child. He explained how so many women suffer from morning sickness, which is directly related to a stagnant liver function and how inevitably babies therefore suffer from colic conditions. His mission in life was to really help women to achieve healthy babies as he had seen and personally experienced many children with autism and other conditions, which he explains as being completely avoidable, with the right protocols.
I think it is so super easy to get panicked about getting pregnant. I know I have!
What I do feel though is that our bodies are simply not ready and by forcing things we are not giving our child the best start in life. We are passing on our health problems and imbalances onto our child. That means that our little one is getting all the toxins we still have lingering in our bodies. All the drugs and hormones we have taken over the years for Endo or anything else. I know for me, when I think back over my life and what I have put into it, that amounts to a whole lot! It is a huge amount of rubbish that I would be passing onto my little one.
So, I don’t think we should rush into getting pregnant like many other doctors suggest. I think we need to prepare our bodies. We need to nourish and rebalance to our best abilities. If this means doing more detoxing, taking more medicinal mushrooms or focusing on correcting our digestive system, then do that! Whatever your personal struggle is and whatever imbalances and signals your body is sending you that it is just not happy, DO THEM!
If you have de-cluttering to do on your emotions and feelings of anger or resentment, do them. If you have mercury fillings, get them taken out (safely of course!).
Take a careful look at your personal toxin/nutrient density comparison. Do you think you still have more toxins in your body than nutrients? When I say toxins, I am talking about more than just preservatives in our foods and air but also the angry emotions, the heavy metals and of course all that negative self-talk you keep up in your head.
Clear it, stop doing it/eating it and really hone in on purifying your body. Your baby is worth it!