I have worked with women around the world who often come to me in desperation in wanting to feel better with their endometriosis. These women are truly struggling and will often break down in tears when talking to me. They are desperate for things to be different and on the surface, it looks like they are willing to do anything to get rid of the pain. As I dig deeper and try to understand what they have tried and where they are at within their own endo journey, a few interesting things often come up. The most interesting is the language these women use when describing their situation. They often describe their situation as being hopeless, like they are never going to feel better or that they have tried everything. The interesting point here… they have convinced themselves of these ideas and these thoughts plague their mind. They rattle these ideas around in their head day in and day out and are repeating the same phrases to themselves on a constant basis.
Another interesting set of phrases then appear. They start to describe the things they have done to eat better and what they have done for their health and I often hear the description as being “hard to stick to” or “they just want to eat like their friends and not have to eat healthy because of having endometriosis” or “they don’t want to feel restricted in their diet”. They describe the “healthy lifestyle” as something they have to force or something that they put on their “to do list”. It is rattled off like it is a chore and something painful that they have to endure.
Here is what is interesting about these two examples. They are examples of how we can use our mind to provide an outcome for our health. In the first example, these women are repeating phrases to their body on a daily basis and yet they are expecting a different result. If you repeat to yourself that you feel tired over and over again… then that is exactly how you will feel. Tell yourself that you feel recharged and energised over and over again and you are more likely to feel that way. The key point here is this: notice the words and thoughts you repeat to yourself and notice the outcome you gain with it. Tell yourself that you will be in pain and the likelihood is, that you will. Tell yourself that things are improving and you are starting to feel better and you will. The mind is so incredibly powerful and yet many of us dismiss this power and believe that we need some major fix to feel better. In many cases, it is simply a shift in thinking that can transform your health.
Try this for the next 7 days: repeat to yourself each morning: My body is healthy and well and I feel good within my body.
The second scenario is something I love to play with. It is the idea of changing a perception you have of yourself and imagining yourself as a different person or a different version of yourself. Imagine the ideal scenario of a stereotype of a person who is healthy. Imagine what that person looks like, how they dress and how they behave. Imagine how much energy they have and how good they look. Imagine the choices that a person like that makes. They are the ideal version of a healthy person. Now, imagine you becoming that person. Imagine being that healthy person and simply choosing to behave in a way that falls within that stereotype or identity of yourself. That person would never eat rubbish food or do things which would be harmful to their body. That person wouldn’t see sugar-laden foods as something they are missing out on. They simply don’t visualise food in that way. They would view foods as either nourishing and good for their body or harmful and make choices based on what would be best for their body. It wouldn’t have anything to do with “missing out” or “being restricted” as those foods simply don’t appeal to this healthy version of you. You, as the healthy version of you, simply has no desire to eat those foods and doesn’t have any interest in choosing things which harm your body – whether you have endo or not. Do you see the difference?
Try shifting your idea of yourself to a healthy version of you. Imagine yourself as already healthy and what choices you would make for yourself. If it helps, pick a celebrity or person you know as healthy and imagine yourself within their life and what choices they would make.
When you make this shift in your thinking, eating healthy and being a healthy version of you becomes really easy. It becomes logical and simple and you seek out ways to eat healthier by choice.
I guess what I am trying to demonstrate to you within this article is that you have incredible power to heal, to feel better and to make better choices which are not based on anything you will read or be told but rather it is based on what you believe. Try shifting your beliefs about yourself and what you believe to be possible for yourself and your journey and see where those roadblocks are.
If you need proof and guidance on how to find enough to change those, please let me know and I will share some article and researched papers to show you what is possible for you.