Why is it so hard to be healthy? The truth behind it all…

CEO Founder & Creator of the REACH© Technique, Endo Empowered & the REACH beyond Endo program.

I have worked with women around the world who often come to me in desperation in wanting to feel better with their endometriosis. These women are truly struggling and will often break down in tears when talking to me. They are desperate for things to be different and on the surface, it looks like they are willing to do anything to get rid of the pain. As I dig deeper and try to understand what they have tried and where they are at within their own endo journey, a few interesting things often come up. The most interesting is the language these women use when describing their situation. They often describe their situation as being hopeless, like they are never going to feel better or that they have tried everything. The interesting point here… they have convinced themselves of these ideas and these thoughts plague their mind. They rattle these ideas around in their head day in and day out and are repeating the same phrases to themselves on a constant basis.

Another interesting set of phrases then appear. They start to describe the things they have done to eat better and what they have done for their health and I often hear the description as being “hard to stick to” or “they just want to eat like their friends and not have to eat healthy because of having endometriosis” or “they don’t want to feel restricted in their diet”. They describe the “healthy lifestyle” as something they have to force or something that they put on their “to do list”. It is rattled off like it is a chore and something painful that they have to endure.

Here is what is interesting about these two examples. They are examples of how we can use our mind to provide an outcome for our health. In the first example, these women are repeating phrases to their body on a daily basis and yet they are expecting a different result. If you repeat to yourself that you feel tired over and over again… then that is exactly how you will feel. Tell yourself that you feel recharged and energised over and over again and you are more likely to feel that way. The key point here is this: notice the words and thoughts you repeat to yourself and notice the outcome you gain with it. Tell yourself that you will be in pain and the likelihood is, that you will. Tell yourself that things are improving and you are starting to feel better and you will. The mind is so incredibly powerful and yet many of us dismiss this power and believe that we need some major fix to feel better. In many cases, it is simply a shift in thinking that can transform your health.

Try this for the next 7 days: repeat to yourself each morning: My body is healthy and well and I feel good within my body.

The second scenario is something I love to play with. It is the idea of changing a perception you have of yourself and imagining yourself as a different person or a different version of yourself. Imagine the ideal scenario of a stereotype of a person who is healthy. Imagine what that person looks like, how they dress and how they behave. Imagine how much energy they have and how good they look. Imagine the choices that a person like that makes. They are the ideal version of a healthy person. Now, imagine you becoming that person. Imagine being that healthy person and simply choosing to behave in a way that falls within that stereotype or identity of yourself. That person would never eat rubbish food or do things which would be harmful to their body. That person wouldn’t see sugar-laden foods as something they are missing out on. They simply don’t visualise food in that way. They would view foods as either nourishing and good for their body or harmful and make choices based on what would be best for their body. It wouldn’t have anything to do with “missing out” or “being restricted” as those foods simply don’t appeal to this healthy version of you. You, as the healthy version of you, simply has no desire to eat those foods and doesn’t have any interest in choosing things which harm your body – whether you have endo or not. Do you see the difference?

Try shifting your idea of yourself to a healthy version of you. Imagine yourself as already healthy and what choices you would make for yourself. If it helps, pick a celebrity or person you know as healthy and imagine yourself within their life and what choices they would make.

When you make this shift in your thinking, eating healthy and being a healthy version of you becomes really easy. It becomes logical and simple and you seek out ways to eat healthier by choice.

 

I guess what I am trying to demonstrate to you within this article is that you have incredible power to heal, to feel better and to make better choices which are not based on anything you will read or be told but rather it is based on what you believe. Try shifting your beliefs about yourself and what you believe to be possible for yourself and your journey and see where those roadblocks are.

If you need proof and guidance on how to find enough to change those, please let me know and I will share some article and researched papers to show you what is possible for you.

Feel free to express your comments & thoughts below or share this article with your friends.

Big hugs,

 

  • Flaure Smith says:

    God is such an awesome God! I will share with you all my journey and how I am on the road to CURING my endometriosis with the help of God. Yes, I did say cure! Here we go…
    So, it all started about 4 years ago when I started getting bad painful periods. When I visited my OBGYN and had an ultrasound done, she told me that I had many fibroids in my uterus and a big one that was growing on top of it. I would get heavy bleeding and pass huge blood clots (sorry TMI) and it would just be painful. Every month, it would be the same thing and I would run through bottles of ibuprofen like nothing. Finally, on my last visit to my doctor before my myomectomy surgery, I did an ultrasound and my fibroid was a little over the size of a grapefruit. I looked like I was 3 months pregnant. That was what led to the myomectomy surgery. My doctor said that I had to get the fibroids removed. When I was on the surgery table it was at that time my doctor discovered that I also had stage 4 endometriosis. When I came out of surgery, she told me that she had to do a lot of cleanup because my internal organs were fused together as a result of scar tissues from the endo. She removed the huge fibroid that was sitting on top of my uterus and most of the little ones INSIDE my uterus. She didn’t have time to remove all of them because I was losing too much blood on the operating table and they had to stitch me back up. She told me that my endo may be the reason why I was getting a lot of pain instead of the fibroid. At that time, I didn’t even know what endometriosis was and to find out I was at a stage 4 terrified me. After my surgery, I had a little relief, but it only lasted for a couple of months. Then the pain came back with a vengeance. This time on my periods, I would vomit uncontrollably without being able to keep anything down the first two days. I had to request for intermittent leave from my job just because I needed to be bedridden for the first couple of days on my period. It was hell and every month, I felt like I was going to die. This went on for a year. My doctor kept offering me to go on hormonal drugs such as Lupron and others, but something inside me always made me refuse. I wanted to get relief, but my instincts were telling me not to take anything and I couldn’t understand why. The only pain reliever I used was ibuprofen. Finally, I became depressed and I started to lose so much weight. I was so depressed and remember asking God, why me? I started praying for healing and for answers to rid me of this horrible disease. During that time, I never did any research on endometriosis and I still didn’t really know what it was. All I knew was that there was no cure for it. I ended up in the emergency room a few nights because the pain was so bad, but the doctors couldn’t do anything for me. They just filled me up with pain drugs until I knocked out on the hospital bed. I was at my wits end and wanted to live a normal life, so I remembered telling my doctor that I wanted to remove my uterus. Although she told me that it would not cure my endo or provide relief, she was not opposed to surgery. She scheduled me to come in for a consultation and when I went home that day, I threw myself on the ground and started crying asking God if He wanted me to remove my womb. There was this hope inside of me that God was going to heal me and that hope kept growing. He was letting me know not to do anything. I never went for my consultation and I started researching women who have found relief from endometriosis. I was shocked to learn that diet played a huge role and my diet was not great at all. I ate everything under the sun. I just LOVED food. God was letting me know that I had to take care of my body in order for me to get better. I made the decision to turn to a completely plant-based diet and I also eliminated sugar, gluten, processed foods, wheat and soy. I figured I didn’t have anything to lose if I cleaned up my diet. I bought myself a juicer and made the decision to juice every day. This journey all started July 2018. After about 3 months, I noticed a MAJOR difference in my symptoms. My pain was 80% REDUCED and I was no longer vomiting every monthly cycle! I remember that I used to lay flat on my back on the bed and able to feel my fibroids (yes, they grew back). They were hard, and firm and big. Now, I would have to search for them as I am pressing on my belly which tells me that my fibroids were shrinking. After about 5 months, I had a hard time finding the fibroids on my abdomen. I hadn’t gone for another ultrasound yet, but I know my doctor will have good news for me when I go get one done. I no longer have heavy periods or pass clots and before the journey, my periods would last 10 days. Now, it only last 4 days. Yes, only 4!!! In addition to my clean eating, I work out at the gym. I do cardio, strength training and a lot of stretching. You must be active. Even if it is just stretching. I can go to the gym on the 5th or 6th day after my period. I can now say that I am now 90-95% healed from my condition and symptoms. I no longer need to take days off on my period to recover. I have so much energy and am so happy that I am on the road to 100% pain free. Ladies you can do it! It just takes persistence and you must clean up your diet. That is a big key. Eliminate meat, dairy, wheat, gluten, sugar, processed foods and just stick with whole foods. It sounds like you’re giving up a lot but your health is worth it. Believe me and you will feel A LOT better and will be healthier. Trust me. I never post anything online, but I told God if he healed me, I would share my journey with those who are suffering.

    Supplements I take:

    • Krill Oil (https://amzn.to/2HB6QLE)
    • DIM (https://amzn.to/2HtTikZ)
    • Magnesium (https://amzn.to/2sJuY4q)
    • Pine Bark (https://amzn.to/2S8XOJS)
    • Serrapeptase (https://amzn.to/2FI2tMU)

    Teas that I drink throughout the day:
    • Dandelion tea (https://amzn.to/2FIAT21)
    • Milk Thistle (https://amzn.to/2U5w8CS_
    I also make turmeric tea (1 teaspoon turmeric powder in hot water)

    Spices I ALWAYS cook with (Don’t be afraid to add plenty of those spices)
    • Organic cayenne powder (https://amzn.to/2AYZ2xf)
    • Organic turmeric powder (https://amzn.to/2Ud3T51)
    • Organic ground ginger (when the recipe calls for it)
    The spices above are EXTREMELY important as they help to remove inflammation from the body. I have completely removed ALL my inflammation in my body. My abdomen area used to be inflamed with inflation and hot when you touch it, now I have a flat stomach.

    Juicing ingredients I use EVERYDAY to fill a medium/large size mason jar:
    • Organic 4-5 celery sticks
    • 7 Organic carrots
    • 1 medium size beets
    • A couple small pieces of ginger
    • 1 peeled cucumber (or 1 unpeeled organic cucumber)
    • A handful of parsley

    Breakfast: I have a huge smoothie which includes frozen blueberries, 2 frozen bananas, 1 apple, 2 handful of raw steel cut oats, almond milk, 1 tablespoon ground flaxseeds, 2 tablespoon chia and hemp seeds, 2 tablespoon almond butter, 3 brazil nuts, 2 tablespoon coconut powder

    Lunch: I typically have Quinoa soup with made with spinach and carrots, but you can google vegan ideas online.
    Dinner: Rice with lentil chili (so good!) on top and 1 hass avocado. I also sauté broccoli as a side. Rice is always the base and I mix up my sauté vegetables. It depends on what I am feeling for. I ALWAYS have avocado. It contains healthy fats and reduce period cramps.

    There are so many vegan delicious recipes that you can find on the internet. I also cook with organic avocado oil but only use a little. I like to snack on almonds, fruits, organic cassava tortilla chips with guacamole and organic salsa. Yum 😊 I hope this information helps someone out there. You don’t have to suffer anymore. Blessings!

  • Kushi says:

    Thank you for this article.. it s like much needed for me ryt now…

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