This weekend was my period weekend. I had very few PMS signs and was quite looking forward to it being a mild one, like the ones I used to get before the whole miscarriage thing. Well, it wasn’t to be and yesterday, I spent the day in bed, watching movies and experiencing quite intense first day pain.
I felt really low about it. I started crying and really feeling sorry for myself. I felt like all my work was not doing a thing! All this natural stuff, all these super foods and cutting out foods wasn’t making the slightest difference. Was this whole thing a complete waste of time? My partner was there to support me through this emotional relapse and it was clear that the hormones had taken their toll on me! Truth is, I have come a long way and there were a few realizations I made yesterday about all of this, which I thought I would share to hopefully make you feel better… if you are having a low moment.
1. We can’t control everything
I know for me there is a terrible need to have control over everything. I feel like the more control I have over circumstances, situations and what I eat, the more prepared I can be, and things will somehow be easier to deal with. It is simply not true and it doesn’t matter how well we try and prepare or preempt situations, we still get thrown curve balls. Things in life are not predictable and we need to allow life to just happen and deal with whatever comes up when it does. Being in control all the time is a stress in itself and it is best just to let some things go.
2. For me, there is no other choice
I realized yesterday when I was crying my eyes out that the reality is… I don’t see any other choice but to keep going with what I have been doing. Nothing prior to this worked even half as well. So, I have one day of pain in a month… that is NOTHING compared to what I used to experience! Choosing to heal the natural way has worked miracles and I need to remember just how far I have come. I wouldn’t choose any other options now.
3. More exploring and trying can always be done
It doesn’t matter where you are in your healing journey, you can always find new and more stuff to try. I know there are heaps of things I still want to explore and do for my body. There are so many detoxes and fasts which I want to do! Detoxing is one of the most rewarding tools for getting faster and more obvious improvements. When you feel like there is no way forward, try one of these, which can be done over a week, and it is amazing what a difference it can make. I am scheduling in my first liver flush for this year in March!
4. Acknowledge the achievements of others
I sometimes get jealous of others. I know, you probably do too. I get jealous because I want to be further in my healing journey. I want to be pregnant or have had a child already or I want to just be done with endometriosis, once and for all. Thing is, I can look at women who have achieved these things and see that it can be done. I can achieve it because they have proven that it is possible. You and I can achieve our own personal goals too.
5. Change the “mind chatter”
I know, I get a terrible “mind chatter” when I am sore. My “mind chatter” fills me up with negativity, like “You will never heal this thing!”, “Who are you kidding?”, “Dream on!”, and “Endo can’t be cured!” I get it really bad on these days. I do know it is just “mind chatter” and it will pass in a few days but being aware of your mind chatter and changing it to fix those negative beliefs is crucial to healing. I change mine to, “Well, look how far I have already come!”, “Of course I can heal!” and “My body is strong and healthy!”
6. Just concentrate on one day at a time.
Today my focus is just to get through the day. Get through and enjoy this day to the best that I can. Give my body all the nutritional benefits I can find for it. Allow myself to relax and laugh and let it all go. Each day is our choice and each moment of what we fill within it is our choice. We can fill it with super rich, nutrient-dense foods or nasty emotional crutch foods. We can choose positive thoughts over negative ones. We can choose things that make us happy and make us feel good. Choose those things… each and every day. Choose joy over “must do” and make decisions that ultimately make you happier and healthier.
Do you have low days too? What realizations have you made with yours? How does your healing journey compare to the past? Would love to hear your thoughts…