I personally hate it when I read any kind of judgement on women with Endometriosis and when we get lumped into a category. I find it puts just another stigma into having Endometriosis which we really don’t need!
However, I did read a profile by Jenny Birdsey which seemed to just hit me and make me question, whether indeed we do have some things in common for having Endometriosis and more importantly if those “personality traits” were actually more hormone-related than specific to us, as women.
It’s a long article and feel free to read it if you like but I thought I would summarise some of the points she mentions, which really stood out for me:
- We have a strong mental constitution. We are high achievers and very competitive with ourselves. Yes for me!
- They pull energy to override the pain and fatigue. We put on a brave face and carry on. Was totally true for me!
- We tend to gravitate towards jobs which require perfectionism, competition, excellence, long hours and heavy responsibility. Ummm yes!
- We like things done “our way” and have certain structures and things in place we want others to follow. Oh dear! Yes!
- A need to have control over things. I totally do this with my diet!
- Inability to take care of ourselves and tend to be very nurturing of others or those around us. Oh yes! Taking care of my readers!
- She feels misunderstood and unsupported. This drives her to seek approval, acceptance, recognition. HATE that I do but I know that I do!
What is interesting about this article is that Jenny believes that many of these “personality traits” are linked to not having enough progesterone in the body. A few weeks ago, I wrote about my personal experience with recognizing that I am always rushing and feel like I am running out of time and that this too could be attributed to low progesterone! All very interesting!
I have worked out that many of these feelings and thoughts stem from something which I have found hard to accept about myself, which is a belief that I just wasn’t enough. It was a challenging one to recognize and perhaps you share these thoughts too. Please tell me if you do, so I don’t feel so alone in sharing! I did find that EFT really helped me shift a huge part of that thought pattern within myself to keep striving so hard and pushing too much.
I am not sure if the thought pattern comes first, which then drives up our cortisol and makes our hormones all out of whack or if it is indeed the progesterone making us drive ourselves so much. I think for me, I would say that the thought pattern definitely came first!
The essence of what to take out of this article…
- Take better care of ourselves
- Slow down enough and give yourself some space to breathe
- It’s okay not to be perfect cos nobody is!