Do you constantly think about how you are going to complete a job as quickly and as perfectly at the same time? Do you stress and get annoyed when others don’t? How about traffic? Do you find yourself cursing about people driving badly and slowly all at the same time?
I did a course about timeous perfectionism, which psychologists believe is inherent in endometriosis sufferers. They say we naturally want everything to be perfect but that we have the added stress of wanting things to be done as quickly as possible as well. It doesn’t usually work. Usually you will either not present it perfectly as you are rushing through it OR you will get it done perfectly but you will have it delayed in time. It is a double-edged sword.
Perhaps the real question is why we feel we need to be so perfect and quick.
Having done this course when I was in my early 20s, I decided I would try and not put myself in a position of needing to complete jobs quickly. I even tried to not worry as much about things being perfect all the time! Well, that didn’t work as it appeared that the more I “just let things go”, the worse I felt for not doing things properly. Then I focused on just slowing down. I threw away my watch and lost the constant focus on time. This definitely seemed to take the time pressure off things. However, I was still getting really stressed about doing things perfectly. What I realized was the stress of this trait was a type A personality trait and that most people who did well in life had these traits. I potentially didn’t want to lose them just because these psychologists had claimed it was my reason for having level 4 endometriosis. I decided the best way was to learn to deal with the stress that my perfectionism caused and to expel the thoughts of always needing to do more, faster and better. A deeper acceptance of myself and recognizing my true abilities as a whole rather than on each job that I did.
It wasn’t just about doing things slower or less perfectly but it was accepting that I couldn’t do things perfectly all of the time. Giving myself the right to fail on occasion.
Stress is often mental. We can choose whether or not a situation stresses us out. Do you create stress on your body for wanting to do things super perfect or super quick, to impress or out-rank someone at work?
Do you share this supposed endometriosis trait? What are your thoughts on it?