You know I enjoy giving. I do it through this blog most days and through many other avenues in my life. Not because it is a job or I get money for it or any other reason…. but simply for the motivation to help women with Endometriosis.. I love giving and I feel such a sense of love and fulfilment when I can help someone, even in the smallest way. It brings tears to my eyes when I can help women with Endometriosis and especially when what I suggest dramatically changes their life. What more fulfillment in life can you get?
Unfortunately, it seems not everyone has this view of the world and though I always dismissed people like this before, I finally understand why. See, I gave to someone recently. I gave a fair bit of my time and my personal love and it backfired. They threw my love and care back in my face and though I only had their best interests at heart, somehow they didn’t seem to see that. It really hurts because my intentions are always in the right place. 🙁
I have actually had this feeling a few times in my life and I am starting to question whether it is my approach that is wrong. It is sort of like when I first started this blog. I was all revved up about teaching women about the natural ways of healing for Endometriosis and became quite adamant that everyone should just change, do it now….. ALL other treatments were bad! Lets just say, the result was less than favourable and I had quite abit of backlash from heaps of women in forums. I have since taken a different stance on my blog and really only target or help women that really want to hear about it – even though I know what I share could help so many more women – unfortunately not everyone is open or ready to listen.
The point I was trying to make about all this, is that I finally understand why others don’t give as freely. It really hurts when others don’t take in what you give! It is actually quite brave to give. You are giving of your heart and your love and it is easy for others to turn that around or reject that. I know why not everyone does. It is actually much easier to be a “taker”. Take when love is given and take from others, rather than giving. It is a good way to protect yourself from your love and giving being rejected. I get it now.
I can also understand why people who enjoy giving and who get that massive fulfillment from the joy they see in others, seek this fulfillment in places like countries in Africa or third world countries needing aid. The fulfillment one would get from just providing a young child with a drink of freshwater would be massive! It is actually quite a small give – well from our point of view – but it is massive…. life-changing to the little kid. Massive reward.
I have had occasions where I had quite an aggressive comment from a reader about an article I wrote and I approach them personally offering some heartfelt advice on how they could feel better. It always made me really nervous to give on this level because I worried the girl I was writing to, might just fire back how ridiculous that advice might be. Often times though they have turned into some really good friends online and they really valued how much love I was really giving.
I know there is a risk in giving but to me the reward far out ways the love I get back from so many of you!
Do you give easily? Do you fear the rejection of sharing and giving to others? Do you feel rejected or used when you give too much?
I would love to hear your views on giving and any advice you can give to make it a little easier for me to give 🙂