I thought it was rather apt that I should answer this question this week, since I was half expecting a little one to be growing inside of me! I had a delayed period of 8 days, which is totally unusual for me! I am still in Germany and the internet connection isn’t quite strong enough to do a video, so we are going back to writing this week.
Here is Amber’s original question:
Message: Have you had any experience or heard of irregular cycles with endo? I’ve always had a 28 day cycle (exactly, to the day) and the last 5 months I have been consistently 10 to 12 days late. It’s really taxing because I don’t want to get my hopes up that I’m pregnant and then be let down; the first month it happened was the worst! I also worry that the endometrial lining is going back up into my body instead of being shed out. Uggg! I’m trying not to freak out about it. Any insight would be great, thank you!
I personally think the main reason for this to happen is stress. Stress affects our adrenal glands and these then domino onto all our other hormones in the body, including our ovulation hormones and all the hormones responsible for making our period happen each month. I know it sounds like a lame reason but it really does influence our whole body on so many levels.
I know I was particularly stressed last week, as I lost my job and the day they told me was a day before I was due to have my period. Naturally the hormones were totally thrown by it!
Types of stress you may not be aware of:
1. Being a “Health Worrier”
We become too focused on our bodies in a way, which actually creates what I like to call an “over healthy worry”. We worry so much about being healthy, eating right, doing the right things for our bodies, that all of those things together actually cause a type of stress. We overthink what we eat, what we do and how we interact with foods and our surroundings. It actually becomes almost unhealthy. Let it go a little and enjoy life a little. Your body will be more grateful if you enjoy it too. Make finding new recipes a fun time and don’t look at foods as restrictive or “I can’t have that” as this is merely creating a negative spin on it all.
2. “Wanting a Baby” Stress
I feel that I can totally sympathize with this one so much more now. It is really a scary feeling when you think you might be pregnant and start to create the “signs” of pregnancy in your body, just to make it real. The raw emotion of doing this is very taxing. You are opening yourself up each and every month, and you may even be “willing” a delayed pregnancy by doing this. I seriously started to wonder whether I was doing this! I started to feel sore boobs, nausea and even imagined my breasts getting darker nipples! The mind is super powerful… so be aware of its power influencing your period too.
3. “Not enough time” Stress
I know this is a common theme in my family. There is never enough time to do anything. Life just seems to be filled with so much and yet we have so many gadgets that need our attention. We place this time pressure on everything in our lives, from work to home life. Feeling like there is not enough time to have a baby is another one we place on ourselves. Recognize that you can have a child as young or old as your body feels. If you feel fit and healthy, you can have a child. It has been done, so focus on making that body as young and healthy as you can.
There is the other side of why we might not get our period, which is our hormones. I know my period has always been regular (apart from this stressful month) but consider trying maca root powder or other natural hormonal herbs to get your balance back. I only recommend maca for a short burst of maybe 6 months and make sure you alternate the times and days you take it.
Focusing on the liver will alleviate hormonal imbalances for you.
I hope this has helped you, Amber, and all the other girls. Let me know if you have any other questions…